Philippians 3:13-14 New American Standard Bible (NASB) 13 Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet; but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A SPRINT, IT IS A MARATHON!!!
This morning I was thinking about running a race, any race and I noticed that there are some prevailing factors about running that you must do in order to even have a chance at winning. One of those factors stood out more then the others; “Don’t look back!” You have to keep your eyes focused on the finished line! Even when you are a relay racer, where the baton is being passed to you, you can’t looked back! The runner continues to look forward as he stretches his hand back to receive. Relay racing is a team activity, you can’t win a relay by yourself. You must be in sync with your partner. Your timing must be perfect, your stride must be at the same pace.
Most runners understand that looking back is a sign of weakness, it indicates to your opponent that you’re not confident. Your look back gives them a psychological edge that you are concerned about the outcome of the race. Besides that, looking back affects your form and will inevitably slow you down. Looking back could cost you the race.
What does this have to do with marriage?
Well, “Looking back,” in our marriage, is the inability to forgive each other for offenses. When we are consistently looking back and rehearsing all the wrongs that have been done and all the mistakes that have been made, we will be unable to be in sync with each other. Being in sync means to come into agreement or work together as one. When we are out of sync with each other we are unable to hear God regarding the direction of our future. Our timing will be off, meaning we will miss opportunities to advance in our God given destiny for our union. When we are at odds with each other, we are out of alignment for the blessings of God to flow to us. Our pace will be off, we will not be running together, putting us at risk of running in opposite directions and growing apart.
So what can we do to get us back into the race?
First we must forgive! Forgiveness is not a feeling it is a command! The Word of God, states that if we want to be forgiven, we must forgive. It says, while we were still out there sinning and still sinning, He (meaning Christ) died for us! Christ did not wait until we ask for forgiveness before he forgave us, but in actuality while we were still offending Him and hurting Him; He forgave us! Forgiveness means to put the person back in right standing as though the offense never happened. I KNOW, I KNOW, you want him/her to know how much they hurt you and you want them to truly be sorry and show some remorse! Forgiveness is not for them it is for YOU, it puts you back in right standing with God, so there will nothing that is hindering your prayers! Trust me, God will take care of the rest! BELIEVE ME I KNOW WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT!
Once you have forgiven, set your eyes on the prize of the high calling which is in Christ Jesus! Stop looking back and look forward! God has an awesome future ahead for the both of you! NOW, GET TO RUNNING AND GO GET YOUR PROMISE!